Thinking Out Loud Ep. 3: It's Impossible to Live Life to the Fullest
One day, I found myself complaining about every negative thing that was happening in my life. I thought about my mistakes from the past, my frustration from my expectations, and the limited time about my future. I know it's is not very uncommon for anyone to do this. But my situation is a unique because my mission for my brand is to inspire and motivate people. I asked myself, "Who am I to tell people to stop complaining when I find myself complaining randomly all the time?"
I sat there feeling like a hypocrite. A fraud. And I thought that my day was already going badly. Then I started thinking about different motivational speakers I've come across. How do they do it? How can they possibly stay positive all the time? And that's when I thought to myself that there is no way it can be done. It's impossible.
All of us are always going to go through some kind of challenge, struggle, or bad experience. We're supposed to make mistakes because that is what makes us human. Imagine a life where everything went the right way. Okay. You're probably sitting there thinking that it would be awesome if that was the case.
Let me put it to you in a different way... Imagine watching a movie, like Titanic, where it begins with Rose, a young girl in love, with a rich and kind boyfriend who loves her back with all his heart. Suddenly one day, they went to America and get married then live happily ever after without any problems. Would you be interested in that kind of movie? Will that leave you inspired after watching it?
As a society, we've been conditioned to suppress our negative emotions. Every time someone asks, "How are you doing?" Our answer is, most of the time, positive. It's become unacceptable, or even abnormal, to be sad or depressed without making anyone else feel uncomfortable around that kind of person.
I think most of us believe nobody will ever be able to live a perfect life without going through any issues. It is an unachievable goal. It's ironic, though, since the best chances of reaching this goal require us to accept our situation and to surrender to this idea.
The fulfilling thing about life is not from making all the right choices. It's from the way we deal with the consequences in our pursuit of true happiness.