Well, it's been a long time...again...since I've written any blog about anything. I find myself writing this blog hoping that my thoughts might help other people. Obviously, the topic of gratitude is popular during Thanksgiving and the holidays. I've been talking about this for a long time...
Remember the bad
Trials and suffering can actually refine and deepen gratefulness if we allow them to show us not to take things for granted.
To say that gratitude is a helpful strategy to handle hurt feelings does not mean that we should try to ignore or deny suffering and pain.
“Life is suffering. No amount of positive thinking exercises will change this truth,” writes Emmons in his Greater Good
article “How Gratitude Can Help You Through Hard Times
.” He continues: So telling people simply to buck up, count their blessings, and remember how much they still have to be grateful for can certainly do much harm. Processing a life experience through a grateful lens does not mean denying negativity. It is not a form of superficial happiology. Instead, it means realizing the power you have to transform an obstacle into an opportunity. It means reframing a loss into a potential gain, recasting negativity into positive channels for gratitude.